Have you ever been in a situation where you need something but could not get it and it makes you feel frustrated and uncomfortable? or lets just put it in one word impatience. I’m sure all of us do. Not a good thing.
What is patience?
Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without becoming annoyed or upset; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. Patience is one of the best and most valuable virtues of life. Patiently persevering, striving and going forward, despite the difficulty, is the pinnacle of behavior during challenging times.
All of you may have been wondering why topic on patience. Well, to be honest in my experience I find it very iritating when people are impatient. I’m a patient person but once in a while I do get impatient. It just happened. Nobody is perfect. Then again if you practice being patient, naturally or automatically you’ll get use to it. In fact as I mention in article above, its them most improtant virtue in a human being.
I’ve seen people cut queue just to be the first to settle their things or just to be the first person in the train etc. I’ve seen people settling their paper work in hurry without checking their work and end up their paper work not up to standard or end not doing a good job. I’ve seen people being impatient while waiting for food/drinks and many more. Lets look at ways people can improve themselves especially in the art of being patient.
People tend to lose patience when multi-tasking or on a tight schedule. You should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to any situation. Try spreading out your tasks so that you’re doing only one thing at a time. Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if there is feeling of anxious, worried or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. It helps to be aware of it. Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration.
Developing patience requires a change in attitude about life but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient.
Being aware of your impatience gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive and that you have the power to change.
If there isn’t anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done but it’s possible, and it’s the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you but you should be able to alleviate impatience that’s caused by issues of less consequence.
People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don’t like to waste time. However, some things just can’t be rushed. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don’t come right away.
Expect the unexpected. You have plans but suddenly things don’t always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you. If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you’re not in touch with the fact that people aren’t perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn’t going to make it any better.
Give yourself a break. Its twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don’t watch television; don’t even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel pretty impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down. Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break.
Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.
Well, I hope the article above make sense to all of you and I hope it helpful. Before I go below is a quote by James Clavell’s Shogun:
“Karma is the beginning of knowledge. Next is patience. Patience is very important. The strong are the patient ones. Patience means holding back your inclination to the seven emotions: Hate, adoration, joy, anxiety, anger, grief, fear. If you don’t give way to the seven, you’re patient, then you’ll soon understand all manner of things and be in harmony with Eternity.”